The Christian Book for Men - Loving our parents in difficult times

The fourth chapter of Volume Two addresses some of the ways we can take better care of our ageing parents.  I have noticed a sea-change in recent years in the way we, in the West, address the needs of our parents as they get older.  I highlight some of the Scripture that I believe will help us to better take care of the needs of our beloved mother and father as they get more and more frail.  Here are the opening paragraphs…

‘Let me ask you a question.

Do you love you father? 

Do you love your mother?

Is it easy for you to love either or both of your parents?

These may seem like odd questions to many readers but I fully understand that you may have good reasons for having issues in this area of your life.

Maybe you were born the son of a rape victim. Or perhaps your mother tried to abort you before you were born.

It could be that your father or mother never loved you.  They perhaps left the family home when you were very young, and so you felt abandoned.

There are many reasons why people struggle to love, let alone honour, their parents.

Before we look at what the Bible has to say about loving our parents in good times and bad, I want to reassure you that whatever mental or physical scars might have been inflicted upon you - either by your parents as they brought you up, or by virtue of having absent parent(s) – your very existence is no accident. You were meant to be born.  You were meant to be, here upon the earth.

If you struggle with who you are, and if you struggle with your parents, let me tell you an important truth.  The Bible says God knew you before you were born AND He knit you together in your mother’s womb – regardless of the circumstances that surrounded the moment of your conception (See Jeremiah chapter 1 verse 5).

The thing is, your body is simply a vessel in which the real ‘you’ lives.  You are spirit, you have a soul, and you live in a body.

If you have a bad opinion of yourself, consider this: a prostitute called Rahab was in the lineage of Jesus (see Matthew chapter 1 verse 5).  Clearly, Rahab found favour with God.  It seems that God rewarded her in the most unexpected way for protecting the Israelite spies who undertook a reconnaissance of Jericho prior to its invasion and capture (see Joshua chapter 2).

Hundreds of years later, we learn of God’s special love for a different prostitute.  She enters the scene in Luke chapter 7 (see verses 36 to 50), where it is recorded that, weeping with a repentant heart, she kissed Jesus’ feet, and poured a precious ointment on them.  A Pharisee cursed her, but Jesus showed her an agape love and told her that her sins were forgiven.

In John chapter 8 we read a wonderfully gracious account involving an adulteress who was thrown at Jesus’ feet by a bunch of hypocritical and self-righteous men.  Jesus showed her agape love too, and with the wisdom of His Words to her accusers (all men), He saved her from being stoned to death - “He who is without [any] sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” (Verse 7).’